One of the most gratifying parts of offering spaces to explore one’s relationship with money, towards the closing of a workshop, for me, is seeing the glow and palpable relief on participant’s faces and the sense of expansion and new possibilities felt after having shifted some money stories. There is nothing like hearing real life feedback after – this is the icing on the cake! After a recent money workshop specifically facilitated for childless women, organised by me and facilitated by Tim Malnick, here is some feedback about positive changes since the workshop that we received from Ali, published in its entirety with her permission below:
“At the workshop, you asked us to let you know of any changes we’d seen since the money workshop and I’ve had a few so wanted to let you know…I’m less tight/ anxious at work – still could do with more loosing I’m sure but the tight control/ anxiety about needing money has lessened considerably which is great. I no longer feel I need to hold on so tight which makes it much easier.
I’ve negotiated 1 day off every fortnight so I have long weekends every other week – ok not a huge massive change (for now) but it’s a good first step and my inner manipulator helped me to find the right path through negotiations which was enjoyable!
We bought a camper-van for £15k – it doesn’t make economic sense to own one and friends told me I didn’t need one and my husband questioned if we’d use it but I felt really definitely it was something I really wanted for freedom and fun as we rented one in NZ and enjoyed it so much. I’m deeply excited about adventures and our first trip in 2 weeks to Devon coast is my first long weekend from work!
The shadow work we did also made me realise that as well as money, babies are magical beings that people can project their hopes and fears onto. They can’t talk back either (to begin with) and not having children I realised I was partly guilty of this also. So the workshop also helped me realise that having children (however wonderful) are not the only paths to purpose, meaning, fun, connection, belonging, legacy, nurture etc. And I can create that in a different way too. Again I’m not perfect but great step in a positive direction.
Thanks again for the great workshop,